Couple’s praise for Norwich businesses who make living with dementia easier
PUBLISHED: 13:36 27 April 2018 | UPDATED: 13:36 27 April 2018
Norfolk Family Carers
The importance of businesses becoming dementia friendly has been highlighted as a couple praise staff who help them cope.
Marilyn Palmer, from Kirby Bedon cares for her husband Doug, 75, who was diagnosed with dementia in 2013.
Recently, 65-year-old Mrs Palmer became separated from her husband in John Lewis, Norwich.
And after searching the store for some time and failing to find him, she became distressed.
But after two members of staff came to her aid and checked the store’s CCTV, they managed to find Mr Palmer.
Mrs Palmer said staff, who recently received Dementia Friends training, were brilliant.
She said: “They were like a big comfort blanket – whisking me away to customer services and reassuring me that they would be able to find Doug.
“After a short while, a security guard told me they’d found Doug on Ber Street and he was with a member of staff who would stay with him until I went to collect him. It was such a relief. I was so grateful - not just for what happened but for how they treated me. They were so kind.”
The next time the couple went to John Lewis the same staff remembered who she was and were able to share a joke with Mr Palmer about not getting lost again.
Mrs Palmer said it helped when people knew and understood about Mr Palmer’s condition and he agreed.
He said: “I find it hard to understand that some people with dementia don’t want people to know. I prefer people to know as it makes it easier for Marilyn. Why hide it?”
The couple also praised other Norwich businesses for their understanding.
They often have breakfast at Cafe Bar Marzano in The Forum.
Staff at the cafe know the couple well and remember their regular order which means when Mr Palmer goes to the counter, staff will always bring over their usual breakfast regardless.
Mrs Palmer said: “I come to Marzano and sit down. Doug goes up to the counter. They know what the order is so they just take the card from Doug and then bring the order over. By doing this they’re actually caring for me – this is my rest. It’s also good for Doug as it means he’s doing something for me for a change and it helps with his self-esteem.”
Murray Davies, assistant manager at Marzano has also been trained as a Dementia Friend. He said: “We’re a big friendly place and most of us who work here are parents. Helping other parents out is second nature and it doesn’t take a big leap to extend that to helping anyone else who needs it. We have a stroke support group who meet here, a sign language group and many more who come and feel welcome.”
Mr and Mrs Palmer also visit The Waterside café in Broadland Business Park where leaseholder Chris Parry and his team showed similar levels of consideration and care.
Julie Izzard, from Norfolk Family Carers, said they were thrilled to hear about the couple’s experiences and are calling on more businesses to follow suit.
She said: “For every person who has a life-limiting illness there is likely to be a carer. To understand the stress that person may be under and to find ways to support them is invaluable. We’re encouraging more businesses to reach out and tell us what they’re doing to support carers so we can spread the word and hopefully raise awareness.”
• Norfolk Family Carers provides practical and emotional support to anyone who is looking after a friend or relative – from those who have recently found themselves doing more for someone, to people who are providing round-the-clock care for a loved one. The charity has been supporting unpaid carers in Norfolk since 1993.
• For more information call 01603 219924, email firstname.lastname@example.org, or visit www.norfolkfamilycarers.org.