OPINION: Why is the assumption always that the man will pay?

PUBLISHED: 09:40 11 October 2017 | UPDATED: 09:40 11 October 2017

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A huge thank you to the Cote Brasserie in Bury St Edmunds where one of the waiters on Sunday achieved what I informed him was a remarkable first.

Never before have I asked for the bill without seeing it being passed to my other half.

This infuriates me beyond measure.

Why is the assumption always that the man will pay?

Do I look like a trembling flower, reliant on a man to keep me financially?

I think not!

Yet it is always the same experience, until Sunday night.

“Thank you,” I said to the waiter. “You are the first waiter to ever pass the bill to me first.”

I am not sure he realised the momentousness of the occasion.

“Well, you asked me for the bill, so it made sense to give the bill to you!” he said.

How very simple. Yet how rare.

I thank him again.

It’s a lovely restaurant, too.

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