Back to school: Advice to parents as children prepare for first day at primary school

14:37 01 September 2014

Thousands of four year olds are about to start their time at school. Photo: Dave Thompson/PA Wire

Thousands of four year olds are about to start their time at school. Photo: Dave Thompson/PA Wire

PA Archive/Press Association Images

It can be a worrying time for parents and children alike – the first day at primary school.

Survey highlights parents’ concerns

The vast majority of parents admit to being anxious about their child starting school, worrying about everything from whether the youngster will make friends to if they will eat a proper lunch, according to a poll.

The survey, commissioned by the Professional Association for Childcare and Early Years (PACEY), found parents are most likely to worry about friendships, with 36pc saying they were most anxious about their child making friends.

This was followed by

concerns about them getting settled and into a routine (23pc) and bullying (19pc).

Around 7pc admitted one of their main worries was their child would grow up too soon, with 6pc concerned they would miss their son or daughter, 4pc worrying about increased academic pressures, 3pc concerned about the school run and 1pc worried about

their child eating a proper lunch.

PACEY chief executive Liz Bayram, said: “We know the first day of school can be a real cause of anxiety for many parents and getting the support you need can be difficult.

“Our research shows parents are most worried about their child’s physical, social and emotional readiness to start school.”

A new survey commissioned by the Professional Association for Childcare and Early Years found that 71pc of mums and dads are concerned about their son or daughter going to school, with more than half saying they would have liked more help in preparing their child for the big moment.

Gordon Boyd, assistant director of children’s services at Norfolk County Council, offered parents some advice to calm nerves and prepare them for the all-important days and weeks to come.

First, he stressed how the process was a three-way partnership.

“The successful start at school is definitely something that works well in almost all cases, and that’s because parents, the child and the school work together to make it successful”, he said.

Norfolk County Council assistant director of children services Gordon Boyd. Photo: Steve AdamsNorfolk County Council assistant director of children services Gordon Boyd. Photo: Steve Adams

“Parents know their children very well and so are extremely well placed to help their child to tune in to this new experience and provide a bridge from what they were doing before.”

Mr Boyd said schools should give parents good communication and clarity of expectations, including practical details of how the child should be prepared for coming to school: what do they wear? Do they bring a water bottle? What are the arrangements for lunch?

But he said schools should make clear their approach to reading and special educational needs; what it did to make sure children were safe; what parents could do to keep their children safe; and who at the school parents should speak to about any issues.

Mr Boyd said the role of parents was often overlooked, with too much emphasis on what the school would do.

So as well as preparing their child for the practicalities of starting at school, he said they needed to prepare them “emotionally for this exciting new stage in their lives, but which is also an opportunity for them to continue with the learning they have already started – whether it’s being very good at throwing and catching, or baking or drawing.”

That continuity with what children experienced before – whether at pre-school or at home – is something he stresses.

“I believe there are many, many different ways of learning and sometimes I think we all forget that. Our primary schools are extremely proficient at making sure that learning takes place in many different ways, whether through talking or playing or practical activities or listening.”

He said it was also important for parents not only to talk to children, but to be attentive to signs they may give off.

A child starting school can be disruptive for family life, with the school day introducing a new routine, and it is important for children to be able to relax from what can be a tiring experience once they are home.

However, Mr Boyd said it was also important for parents to talk to them about what they had done at school that day. And if parents had any concerns, they should talk to the class teacher.

Do you have an education story? Email


Welcome , please leave your message below.

Optional - JPG files only
Optional - MP3 files only
Optional - 3GP, AVI, MOV, MPG or WMV files

Please log in to leave a comment and share your views with other Eastern Daily Press visitors.

We enable people to post comments with the aim of encouraging open debate.

Only people who register and sign up to our terms and conditions can post comments. These terms and conditions explain our house rules and legal guidelines.

Comments are not edited by Eastern Daily Press staff prior to publication but may be automatically filtered.

If you have a complaint about a comment please contact us by clicking on the Report This Comment button next to the comment.

Not a member yet?

Register to create your own unique Eastern Daily Press account for free.

Signing up is free, quick and easy and offers you the chance to add comments, personalise the site with local information picked just for you, and more.

Sign up now


Most Read

Most Commented

Latest from the EDP



max temp: 12°C

min temp: 9°C

Listen to the latest weather forecast

Show Job Lists

Digital Edition


Enjoy the EDP
digital edition


Newsletter Sign Up

Sign up to receive our regular email newsletter