Glossing over the true difficulties of having a child
PUBLISHED: 07:10 06 November 2017
Opinion: Celeb magazines give a false impression of the ease of conception for older women, says Sharon Griffiths.
Do we believe celebrities? Not if we’ve any sense we don’t.
Most of us know quite well that most celebrities live on a different planet, probably one inhabited by unicorns.
When they say their beauty regime is no more than a glass of lemon juice (internal) and soap and water (external) and perhaps a dollop of some cheap and cheerful face cream as recommended by their gran, well, we take it with a lorry load of salt. We know they’ve got personal trainers, live on two lettuce leaves and a grape a day and have a brilliant plastic surgeon on speed dial.
We indulge them in their fantasies and wish the world were really like that but we’re not fooled.
So when celebrities in their forties and fifties suddenly start producing children, our radar senses IVF, surrogates, expensive intervention.
Now researchers in America are blaming celebrities for so many women failing to conceive in their forties. The scientists say that because celebrities make it look easy, then the rest of us are lulled into a false confidence and leave it too late to try for babies.
But the stars are just part of the same world as the rest of us - busy making careers, getting on with their lives, hoping the right man will turn up one day. And if he doesn’t turn up until they’re in their forties, then maybe it’s a bit late but not, with some help, TOO late…
The chances of getting pregnant after 40 are slimmer. Yes, it happens – but not as easily as for those in their twenties. Now the researchers want celebrities to be upfront and honest about the procedures they’ve had, to act as a warning to the rest of us.
Really? Some have – Celine Dion, Nicole Kidman and Mariah Carey have all spoken out about their difficulties in becoming mothers. That will definitely have sounded warning bells or helped other women in the same position to cope.
But some things are private, too painful even for stars used to having every aspect of their lives publicised and picked over. Even they have feelings and chatting about your disappointment about something so deeply important isn’t always easy, so let’s cut them some slack.
We can guess the truth. Everyone’s entitled to keep the innermost failures of their bodies to themselves – even celebrities.
*Incidentally, the researchers who produced the report apparently read 416 glossy magazines in order to find out what was written about older celebrities and their babies.
How lovely to put your feet up with a glossy magazine every afternoon and say, quite honestly “But I’m working!”