Yeah, yeah, whatever...
« Back to index
Sorry for missing a week again. Incidentally, that's the theme of this week's blog: apologies. How often are apologies necessary? Do we apologise too much as a society? Or is it not enough?
It's a well known fact that the more someone says, "Sorry," the less meaningful the apology is. So what do you do when you want to make a sincere gesture of regret at your actions, but the person you're aiming it at simply won't accept what you're saying? You end up repeating yourself, and unless you want to turn into a grovelling Fink-Nottle, you end up getting angry back. They're just being stubborn to not see that you're being genuine, surely? They evidently don't want to patch things up. In the end, it seems that your 'apology' just made everything worse. On the other hand, if you hadn't said anything, the person in question would be equally furious that you took no time to consider their feelings because you're evidently too wrapped up in your own egotistical head.
Oh dearie me.
It is a dilemma indeed, and we all fall into the trap of both characters in that scenario. I have friends who are too apologetic, while I also know others who simply do not see their actions as being wrong. Both are equally irritating, and I will admit that mostly, I do end up in the latter category. I have a horrible tendency to always see myself as a victim, or my paranoia kicks in and I think that whatever has happened to me is some cruelly designed plan to rid my present group of friends of me - I'm positive they've all been involved in this machination. I find that I mostly apologise for events which - in the grand scheme of things - aren't very important, and get tongue-tied and confused when, "Sorry," is the only thing which would have any hope of healing a situation.
And so, to conclude: I believe we should keep, "Sorry," as a word of more significance. There needs to be a new phrase equivalent to a 'half-sorry', if you see what I mean, which could be applicable to the less important incidents. That way, saying sorry would have a refreshed meaning as a word for the most sincere and genuine of apologies.
PS: Happy now, Corsair?